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MOSTLY NON-BINARY : Mostly gender neutral. Our non-binary focused issue. If you're familiar with the term you might recognize some faces. If you aren't, you soon will.

MOSTLY NON-BINARY

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Mostly gender neutral. Our non-binary focused issue. If you're familiar with the term you might recognize some faces. If you aren't, you soon will.

Credits

Subject Soph/Sophie

Writer Stoya

Photographer Steve Ronin

I remember a nice interaction at a convention with a man who wanted me to explain what cisgender was. He felt he should know, but he didn’t, and I’ve got this help-desk vibe that inspires people to bring me their sexual questions. I explained that cis as a prefix was a way of indicating the person’s body and gender have always fit the Patriarchy’s binary system, providing a term for the opposite of trans. Using cisgender implies that the identity is one experience, leaving space for trans, gender non-conforming, and non-binary lives.

Based on this meta-study, I’d casually estimate the number of people who declare their identity as androgynous, gender non-conforming, or non-binary to be at least .3% of the US population. I assume the much higher rate of non-binary people in my life is due to selection bias. The math is sloppy, but it’s the best I could turn up. And if you have any links to research on this please let me know.

I first learned about non-binary gender presentation through Jiz Lee’s personal site. They’ve been out and proud in the porn industry since 2005--starring in Shine Louise Houston's original The Crash Pad--and have seemingly endless patience for explaining pronouns.

Jiz is our cover model, in a photo from the Baptism gallery taken by Steve Ronin, which I posed in as well. They also perform in a new xxx series called Stark with fellow ENBY (the onomatopoeia of NB, short for non-binary) Cam Damage. The connection between these two is palpable, and I suspect it has to do with their communication between booking and the scene taking place. Cam also appears in a behind-the-scenes Instax set by Steve, joyfully frolicking in a pile of decorative balloons.

I wanted to know more about non-binary experiences, so I commissioned some essays and articles.

Indigo Wolfe starts us off with a guide to sex toys for non-binary bodies. Mia Little takes us through their Pilipino journey, discussing their gender and also their cultures. Mononymous Owen agreed to an interview and sent back such in depth responses that I upgraded them to a writer’s credit. And Sophie Red/Sir Soph gave us an interview about how they navigate their sex work in the dungeon.

I also interviewed artist Darren Neave about his Wedgewood Fleshlight. As a “Fleshlight Girl” it was topical to my interests and I love a good atemporal aesthetic. And April Would brings us another edition of Sex Lit Picks, this time on K.M. Szpara's Docile.

We've got more in the video category, too, Rain DeGrey gives us a Teachable Moments on what a dental dam is and how to use it. Kasey Warner talks about their relationship to their body and gender as a porn performer in a solo scene called Heart Boners. And April Flores and Milcah Halili bring their intimacy and history to our Connection series. I'm thrilled to have had the opportunity to collaborate with such wonderful performers.

Whether you’re eager to sate your curiosity, happy to see yourself or your friends represented, or along for the ride, I hope you enjoy this issue. I’m proud of the work our collaborators have done, and excited to release it into the world.

Thank you,

Stoya

Credits

Subject Soph/Sophie

Writer Stoya

Photographer Steve Ronin

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